If you are reading this and you have not read my first post, I recommend you read it here and come back to read this.
I'll start today's post with a story.
It is said that one day, Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him, saying all kinds of rude words.
Buddha did not get upset by these insults. Instead, he asked the young man, “Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not accept it, to whom does the gift belong?”
The young man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, “It would belong to me, because I bought the gift.”
The Buddha smiled and said, “That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, I have rejected your gift. Then the anger, your gift, is yours. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.”
The only 2 ways you feel an emotion are by creating it, or by accepting it.
How do we know whether we have created or accepted the emotion?
Creating
"We are not human beings trying to live a spiritual life, we are spiritual beings trying to live a human life." - Wayne Dyer
We exist as spiritual beings and we come to live this life in our mental, emotional and physical bodies. We use these 3 bodies as tools. We manoeuvre through human experiences to gain lessons for the spiritual body, and when we have utilised the "tools", we, the spiritual body, move on.
That helps us understand that we are not the mental, emotional or physical bodies. So when we let our mind and emotions control us, we are at the mercy of things that are not in our control. On top of that, how we feel and think control how we see the world. So if we can switch it, such that the spiritual body, you, is in control of the emotions, we can experience a better world for ourselves.
This is how I know that I am not my emotions. When we feel angry, sad, jealous or frustrated, we are not that emotion but rather experiencing it. "I am feeling angry, but I am not the anger." This separation allows us to analyse and detach from it. We become aware that we have either created or accepted (I'll get to that in a bit) the emotion. With that awareness, and the power that we give our spiritual body over the emotional body, we can create happiness throughout the day 7 days a week.
Accepting
Knowing that emotions are like gifts. It simplifies how we feel when we experience emotions through outer stimuli. When someone is "gifting" an emotion or if you are seeing/experiencing something with an emotion connected to it and it is not happiness, we must understand the the power to accept or reject that emotion lies solely with us.
Whenever I am in a situation which I feel unhappy, I ask myself 1 question. "Am I observing the situation accurately or am I projecting how I feel onto what is happening." This makes me self-aware that I am either creating or accepting an emotion. If you do this too, at that point, step back, ask yourself how you are feeling? why you are feeling that way? and break it down for yourself. You will realise that you have either accepted or created an emotion and with that power your spiritual body holds, you can stop creating and rejecting the said emotion, and continue to create and accept happiness, love and joy only.
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All be blessed,
Rahil Dave
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